COVENTRYONLINE · UNITED KINGDOM BY ARRANGEMENT · INTERNATIONALLY
— PRIVATE PRACTICE —
Specialist
psychotherapy for the
problems that have not
shifted.
For adults, couples and families carrying complex personal, relational, or
intergenerational situations that previous treatment, coaching, or self-work
has not resolved.
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The people who find their way to this practice are not arriving with a vague sense that life could be better. They are arriving with something specific. A grief that has not lifted. A relationship that stopped being the relationship it was meant to be. A pressure that has gone past the point of being manageable by will alone. A parent they have not spoken to for years. A partnership that collapsed. A career that has stopped feeling like theirs. A body that has begun to signal something the mind has not yet allowed itself to name.
A pattern they can now see and cannot yet stop.
In public, nothing is wrong. In private, something has started to cost more than it can keep paying. They have organised their lives around being competent, reliable, the ones who get it done, the ones who do not make a fuss. And something in them has begun to notice what that has taken.
Most of them have tried other things. CBT. Coaching. Church. Medication. Meditation. Journalling. Books. Sometimes several previous therapists. They are articulate, they can describe the pattern, and the pattern has not moved.
In public, nothing is obviously wrong. Careers are intact. Families are functioning. Responsibilities are being met. In private, something has started to cost more than it can keep paying, and they have arrived at the point where the usual approaches have hit their limits and the situation has not reached resolution.
This is the work the practice is built for.
Listening, slowly and structurally, to what lies
underneath the surface of what is being said.
AREAS WE WORK WITH
Difficulties that feel entrenched, repetitive, or difficult to articulate.
The clinical work sits in these areas, often overlapping inside a single engagement.
I.
Complex trauma and its long reach.
The effects of growing up in a high-conflict, emotionally volatile, or emotionally absent family. Patterns of burnout, perfectionism, or overwork that feel driven rather than chosen. Anxiety, depression, or emotional shutdown that has not responded well to previous approaches, often because those approaches worked on the symptom and not on the structure.
II.
Personality and relational patterns.
Relationships that repeat, with the same kind of partner, the same kind of conflict, the same quiet disappointment arriving two or three years in. Difficulties with closeness, trust, anger, or dependency. Compulsive behaviours that feel automatic and return under stress, whatever form they take.
III.
The intractable breakup, separation, or betrayal.
The end of a marriage, a long partnership, a business relationship, or a family relationship that is still shaping the weather of your days months or years after it happened. The grief that has not moved. The anger that keeps returning. The part of you that has not been able to rejoin ordinary life.
IV.
Family and multigenerational situations.
Estrangements. Succession conflicts inside family enterprises. Sibling dynamics that are still playing out the parents' marriage. Diaspora family life where three generations and two continents are held in one conversation. The particular shape of firstborn responsibility, of the cultural weight of what will people say, and of the role the culture had made structurally impossible to hold.
V.
Identity and the career that has stopped feeling like yours.
The point at which the work has become the self, and the question of who would be left if the role were suspended has become unbearable. The promotion that was not what it was meant to be. The moment a long-held vision has stopped being possible. Decisions that only look like decisions from outside.
VI.
Couples and relational work.
Marriages where the conversation stopped happening some time ago. Partnerships where the love is still present but the contact is not. Cross-cultural partnerships where the pressures of two families, two continents, and two sets of expectations are held in one conversation.
HOW WE WORK
Integrative, grounded in psychoanalytic
and psychodynamic thinking.
The approach is integrative and grounded in psychoanalytic and psychodynamic thinking. Mentalisation-Based Treatment, Transference-Focused Psychotherapy, and Relational Life Therapy are clinical methods brought to the work where relevant. The organising frame is analytic.
The work is less interested in teaching you strategies for managing the situation, and more interested in understanding what the situation has been doing for you, and why it has been so resistant to being set down.
Sessions are available online across the United Kingdom and internationally via secure video, and selectively in person in Coventry. Intensive formats and longer-horizon engagements are available by arrangement.
Therapy is open-ended. We work for as long as it is genuinely useful, not to a predetermined package length. Intensive formats and longer-horizon engagements are available by arrangement.
INDIVIDUAL
50 minutes
Weekly or twice-weekly
COUPLES
60 minutes
Weekly
INITIAL CONSULTATION
90 minutes
Assessing fit
DELIVERY
Online & Coventry
Secure video · UK & international
Fees
Priced plainly.
Session fees at the current practice rate. Intensive formats and longer-horizon engagements are scoped by arrangement.
Fees are reviewed periodically. The rate at which you begin is the rate at which your ongoing sessions are held for the first year of work.
How to begin
A ninety-minute consultation
to assess fit.
The initial consultation is where you describe what has brought you to therapy, where I explain how I work, and where both of us assess whether the fit is right. There is no obligation to continue after the consultation. If the fit is not right, I will say so.
FOR INDIVIDUALS
Book an individual consultation
Ninety minutes. For adults exploring individual psychotherapy.
FOR COUPLES & FAMILIES
Book a couple or family consultation
Ninety minutes. For couples or family members exploring relational work.
Or
Ask a question before booking.
For enquiries about intensive formats, longer-horizon engagements, or questions you would rather ask before scheduling a consultation.
Enquiries are received in confidence. You will receive a reply within two working days.
Chotayah — "find it" — a specialist psychoanalytic psychotherapy practice with an organisational consultancy arm.
CONTACT
Coventry, United Kingdom
Online / internationally
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