COVENTRY - ONLINE · UNITED KINGDOM ·
— Private Practice · Integrative depth Psychotherapy —
Specialist therapy
for the problems that
have not shifted.
For adults, couples and families carrying complex personal, relational, or
intergenerational situations that previous treatment, coaching, or self-work
has not resolved.
Most clients arrive at Chotayah having already tried things. CBT. Coaching. Church. Medication. Meditation. Journalling. Books.
In public, nothing is obviously wrong. Families are functioning. Responsibilities are being met. In private, something has started to cost more than it can keep paying, and they have arrived at the point where the usual approaches have hit their limits and the situation has not reached resolution.
This is the work the practice is built for
The people who find their way to this practice are not arriving with a vague sense that life could be better. They are arriving with something specific. A grief that has not lifted. A pattern they can now see and cannot yet stop. They have organised their lives around being competent, reliable, the ones who get it done, the ones who do not make a fuss. And something in them has begun to notice what that has taken.
The work suits clients whose outer life seems intact. Senior professionals, founders, clinicians, partners in firms. People in demanding roles with dependents, households, and reputations that rest on their continued functioning. People who have not been able to say aloud, to anyone, what has been privately true for some time.
It also suits second-generation professionals of African, South Asian, and diaspora heritage, whose inner and outer lives span more than one cultural register, and for whom previous therapy did not hold that complexity structurally.
Listening, slowly and structurally, to what lies
underneath the surface of what is being said.
- AREAS WE WORK WITH -
Difficulties that feel entrenched, repetitive, or difficult to articulate.
The clinical work sits in these areas, often overlapping inside a single engagement.
I.
Complex trauma and its long reach.
The effects of growing up in a high-conflict, emotionally volatile, or emotionally absent family. Patterns of burnout, perfectionism, or overwork that feel driven rather than chosen. Anxiety, depression, or emotional shutdown that has not responded well to previous approaches, often because those approaches worked on the symptom and not on the structure.
II.
Personality and relational patterns.
Relationships that repeat, with the same kind of partner, the same kind of conflict, the same quiet disappointment arriving two or three years in. Difficulties with closeness, trust, anger, or dependency. Compulsive behaviours that feel automatic and return under stress, whatever form they take.
III.
The intractable breakup, separation, or betrayal.
The end of a marriage, a long partnership, a business relationship, or a family relationship that is still shaping the weather of your days months or years after it happened. The grief that has not moved. The anger that keeps returning. The part of you that has not been able to rejoin ordinary life.
IV.
Family and multigenerational situations.
Estrangements. Succession conflicts inside family enterprises. Sibling dynamics that are still playing out the parents' marriage. Diaspora family life where three generations and two continents are held in one conversation. The particular shape of firstborn responsibility, of the cultural weight of what will people say, and of the role the culture had made structurally impossible to hold.
VI.
Identity and the career that has stopped feeling like yours.
The point at which the work has become the self, and the question of who would be left if the role were suspended has become unbearable. The promotion that was not what it was meant to be. The moment a long-held vision has stopped being possible. Decisions that only look like decisions from outside.
VI.i
Couples and relational work.
Marriages where the conversation stopped happening some time ago. Partnerships where the love is still present but the contact is not. Cross-cultural partnerships where the pressures of two families, two continents, and two sets of expectations are held in one conversation.
- HOW WE WORK
A structural, long-frame practice.
The approach is integrative and grounded in psychoanalytic and psychodynamic thinking. Mentalisation-Based Treatment, Transference-Focused Psychotherapy, and Relational Life Therapy are clinical methods brought to the work where relevant. The organising frame is analytic.
The work is less interested in teaching you strategies for managing the situation, and more interested in understanding what the situation has been doing for you, and why it has been so resistant to being set down.
Sessions are available online across the United Kingdom and internationally via secure video, and selectively in person in Coventry. Intensive formats and longer-horizon engagements are available by arrangement.
Therapy is open-ended. We work for as long as it is genuinely useful, not to a predetermined package length. Intensive formats and longer-horizon engagements are available by arrangement.
INDIVIDUAL
50 minutes
Weekly or twice-weekly
COUPLES
60 minutes
Weekly
INITIAL CONSULTATION
90 minutes
Assessing fit
DELIVERY
Online & Coventry
Secure video · UK & international
- Fees
Stated plainly. Held steady.
Session fees at the current practice rate. Intensive formats and longer-horizon engagements are scoped by arrangement.
Individual therapy
Fifty minutes · weekly or twice-weekly
Fees are reviewed periodically. The rate at which you begin is the rate at which your ongoing sessions are held for the first year of work.
— Also at the practice
Coaching & Applied Insight.
A time-bounded arm of the practice for clients with a delimited problem, anxiety, sleep, phobia, smoking, weight, performance, transition. Clinical hypnopsychotherapy and Gestalt, with NLP, solution-focused methods and coaching. Engagements run three to six months. Held by Chiddie and Ben.
- How to begin
A ninety-minute consultation to assess fit.
The practice does not run a triage line or a discovery call. The first appointment is itself part of the work, a clinical ninety minutes with Chiddie or Ben, at which fit, frame and direction are considered together. You book it the way you would book an appointment with any specialist clinician.
FOR INDIVIDUALS
Book an individual consultation
Ninety minutes. For adults exploring individual therapy.
FOR COUPLES & FAMILIES
Book a couple or family consultation
Ninety minutes. For couples or family members exploring relational work.
Or
Ask a question before booking.
For enquiries about intensive formats, longer-horizon engagements, or questions you would rather ask before scheduling a consultation.
Enquiries are received in confidence. You will receive a reply within two working days.
For professional referrers — solicitors, private GPs, family offices and trustees — correspondence is received at [email protected] and read personally.
Chotayah — "find it" — a specialist integrative depth therapy practice grounded in psychoanalytic thinkings with an organisational consultancy arm.
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Coventry, United Kingdom
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