COVENTRY ONLINE · UNITED KINGDOM BY ARRANGEMENT · INTERNATIONALLY
Est. 2021 — A specialist practice
Where the usual approaches have not reached the problem
And the pattern keeps repeating.
Chotayah is a specialist psychotherapy and consultancy practice for individuals, couples, families, and principals carrying complex personal, relational, or intergenerational situations that previous treatment has not resolved.
— WHO WE WORK WITH
Clients often arrive recognising themselves before they can name what is wrong.
The work begins with a particular shape of life, not a diagnosis. Most of the people who find their way to the practice recognise themselves in one of these.
I.
The senior leader.
A partner, a founder, a C-suite executive. Competent, visible, still delivering. The private life is not where the public self is — and usually there is no one safe to say this to.
II.
The diaspora professional.
A first- or second-generation immigrant holding a professional life in one culture and a family life shaped by another. The cost of carrying two systems usually surfaces in the body, or in the intimate relationship, first.
III.
The couple in crisis.
A marriage or long partnership at a threshold — an affair, a long estrangement under the same roof, a decision about whether to stay. Often one partner has already started the internal leaving.
IV.
The multigenerational family.
A family carrying something across generations — an unresolved bereavement, a business succession, a cultural inheritance, a pattern of silence. The presenting problem is one person; the shape of the work is the system.
V.
The individual carrying intractable loss.
A bereavement, a rupture, a diagnosis, a leaving — something that has already been talked about elsewhere and has not moved. The grief is not the problem; what the grief has touched underneath is.
— The problems they bring
And the problems they actually
bring.
Clients arrive carrying specific situations that have already been worked on and not yet moved. Not vague dissatisfaction. Named, intractable problems.
I.
The pain that will not lift.
Something happened, or something has been happening for years, and the grief, the anger, or the low-level weight of it has not softened with time.
II.
The breakup that is still breaking you, eighteen months later.
The marriage ended. The affair ended. You are not where you thought you would be by now. The pattern that led you into it is still intact, and you are watching yourself start to make the same move again.
III.
The family argument that has now become a decade.
An estrangement. A parent you no longer speak to. A sibling the family has agreed not to talk about. Christmases organised around who is not coming. The argument is old. The cost is current.
IV.
The partnership that collapsed and took something of yours with it.
A business partner who became a different person. A leadership team you built that fractured. A co-founder relationship that ended in court or in silence. The commercial consequences have been managed. What it did to you has not.
V.
The career that has stopped feeling like yours.
Twenty or thirty years of work. Competent, senior, still functioning. And something in you has gone quiet underneath the role — and you do not yet know whether the answer is to leave the work, change the work, or change something inside yourself that the work has been standing in for.
VI.
The pattern that keeps repeating in your relationships.
The same kind of partner. The same kind of conflict. The same disappointment arriving two or three years in. You can name the pattern now. You can see it happening. You cannot yet stop it happening.
VII.
The child who is not coming home.
Or the spouse who is technically still there but has not been present for some time. The relational architecture of your life is quietly falling apart and you have not yet been able to say it out loud.
VIII.
The body that has started signalling.
Panic that did not used to be there. Sleep that does not come. A compulsion returning. A three-day somatic state after an ordinary family phone call. The body is telling you something the mind has not yet allowed itself to name.
If any of this is why you are here, the practice is built for you.
— HOW THE WORK IS DONE
Depth work, across three arms.
The approach is integrative and grounded in psychoanalytic and psychodynamic thinking, applied across clinical, developmental, and organisational settings. The organising frame is the same. The setting changes.
What that means in practice is that the work is less interested in teaching you strategies for managing the surface, and more interested in understanding what the situation has been doing for you, what it has been protecting, what it has been costing, and what it would take to change.
Three arms of one practice. Psychotherapy for clinical presentations. Behavioural and developmental coaching for goal-oriented change where the client is functioning and wants to move. Consultancy for leadership teams, family enterprises, and organisations where the problem is relational.
Each arm has its own contract, its own ethical frame, and its own fee structure. Clients are routed to the arm that fits the work, not the other way round.
Sessions are fifty minutes. Individual work runs weekly or twice-weekly. Couples work is usually weekly. Therapy is open-ended. You work for as long as it is genuinely useful, not to a predetermined package length.
Two founders.
Complementary expertise.
Chiddie Anyasodo
leads the clinical work.
An integrative psychotherapist working psychoanalytically, a doctoral researcher at the University of Exeter, and, before clinical training, a subsurface engineer across four continents at Schlumberger, Baker Hughes, and Siemens. Advanced training with the Anna Freud Centre, the International Society for Transference-Focused Psychotherapy, and the Relational Life Institute. BACP Registered.
The same subsurface detective methodology she applied to reservoirs is now applied to complex personal and relational systems.
Ben Anyasodo
is a dedicated and versatile hypnopsychotherapist and coach who combines expertise in psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, NLP, and coaching to help clients achieve their personal goals. He leads the Psychological Care, Life Coaching, and Trauma Release Therapy arm of the practice Ben's practice is solution-focused and human-centred, crafting individualised programmes built around each person as a unique human being rather than around the presenting label. Sessions are in-person and online. Evidence-based, compassionate, non-judgemental. A Human-Machine Interaction specialist, behavioural researcher. Ben brings clinical-grade behavioural insight to the coaching work, the organisational consultancy, and the way Chotayah's services are designed around the people who use them.
— Three arms of the practice
Clinical work, and applied clinical thinking.
Each arm has its own contract, ethical frame, and fee structure. Clients are routed to the arm that fits the work, not the other way round.
I
Depth Psychotherapy
For individuals, couples & families.
Psychoanalytically-informed psychotherapy for complex trauma, personality patterns, and relational or intergenerational situations. Open-ended. Weekly or twice-weekly.
Led by Chiddie Anyasodo
II
Coaching & Applied Insight
For functioning adults seeking directed change.
Goal-oriented coaching for senior individuals in transition — leadership, performance, confidence, career re-orientation. Bespoke programmes, not packages.
Led by Ben Anyasodo
III
Organisations & Family Enterprise
For principals, boards & family offices.
Depth-psychological consultancy for leadership teams, family-enterprise governance, founder transitions, succession, and next-generation dynamics. Retainer engagements.
Led jointly
— A PRIVATE CONVERSATION —
If the situation feels intractable.
Whether you are navigating a relational pattern that has resisted other approaches, or a leadership or organisational dynamic that standard interventions have not reached, the practice is open to an initial conversation. No sales process. A frank, private assessment of whether this work is relevant to what you are facing.
Both routes begin with a founder, not an intake team.
Not every enquiry becomes an engagement; fit is established in the first conversation.
PRIVATE PRACTICE
An initial consultation with Chiddie or Ben.
The first appointment is itself part of the work - a clinical ninety minutes with one of the founders, assessing fit and direction.
Ongoing weekly or twice-weekly psychotherapy is arranged from there.
For individuals, couples, families and multigenerational work. Fees on the Private Practice page.
ORGANISATIONS
A scoping conversation for leadership & family systems.
Organisational work begins with a private scoping call, not a booked session. The practice takes a limited number of retainer engagements each quarter, and the first conversation is free of expectation on either side.
For leadership teams, family enterprises, principals, trustees.
PROFESSIONAL REFERRALS
[email protected] - solicitors, physicians, family offices, trustees
Chotayah — "find it" — a specialist psychoanalytic psychotherapy practice with an organisational consultancy arm.
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