About | Chotayah
When the centre starts to crack, we begin where it all converges.
You.
Most breakdowns start inside a person and echo through every system they touch.
Chotayah works at that intersection, where an individual’s internal architecture meets the structures they lead, love, and live within.
Chotayah is a psycho-strategic consultancy for people in high-stakes roles and the systems that depend on them.
Our work often begins one-to-one: tracing how power, attachment, and decision patterns shape outcomes. From there, we widen the frame—to families, partnerships, teams, and communitiesrepairing the links between personal insight and collective function.
We call this process Adaptive Relational Depth & Mentalization (ARDM): a diagnostic and reparative method that combines systems engineering, depth psychology, and cultural intelligence to create durable change.,
Start here: Request an ARDM Diagnostic Session
Private. Structured. Transformational.
Chotayah: We guide you to the you, waiting to be found
The Three Cornerstones of Chotayah
The Foundations of Our Approach
Our methodology is built upon three cornerstones that define our unique capability:
1. Strategic Acumen Combined 3 decades spent in global engineering, research, operations, and business development informs our rigorous, diagnostic approach. We don't just see the symptoms of a breakdown; we map the entire system to find the root cause.
2. Clinical Depth Our work is grounded in the most rigorous and effective models for understanding human psychology, including psychoanalytic theory, trauma repair, and personality dynamics. This allows us to facilitate deep, structural change, not just behavioral adjustments.
3. Cultural Intelligence We believe that effective work must be culturally resonant. Our methodology is built on a foundation of cultural humility and integrates ancestral wisdom to ensure that change is real, not performative.
How We Begin
Our work is confidential and tailored to your context.
Setting:
Global & Virtual: The majority of our work is conducted with leaders worldwide via secure, encrypted video.
UK intensives. For rapid, contained change, we host bespoke 1–5 day intensives at a discreet luxury venue in Coventry (central UK). The environment is engineered for privacy, focus, and uninterrupted depth work.
Start: We begin with a 90-minute Diagnostic. You will leave with a written map of the core pattern, immediate guardrails to create stability, and clear next steps for future long term work.
Chiddie Anyasodo:
The Systems Architect of Legacy
OUR TEAM
"You lead a world of high-stakes, immense pressure, and multi-generational legacy.
When the internal pressure points break, in the boardroom, the family office, or your own leadership, traditional advice fails."
Chiddie Anyasodo:
The Systems Architect of Legacy
Chiddie Anyasodo:
The Systems Architect of Legacy
Chiddie Anyasodo
The Systems Architect of Legacy
"You lead a world of high-stakes, immense pressure, and multi-generational legacy.
When the internal pressure points break, in the boardroom, the family office, or your own leadership, traditional advice fails."
My primary role is to serve as a high-performance advisor to leaders, families, and organizations navigating extreme pressure. Most work begins one-to-one. Only when your change must hold beyond you do we extend—to a partner, family, or team.
I combine depth-analytical psychology, trauma-informed practice, and high-stakes consulting to break loops of reactivity, shame, over-functioning, and power struggle. My work is built on a core principle: you cannot build sustainable success on a fractured foundation.
The Bottom Line: We restore calm, clarity, and relational strength, from the inside out.
My Approach: The ARDM Protocol
Where traditional coaching addresses surface behavior, I use the subsurface diagnostic rigor of an engineer and the depth of an analytical psychotherapist to map the hidden patterns that limit your impact.
This journey began in global engineering, diagnosing failures in complex high stakes systems for industry leaders like Schlumberger, Baker Hughes, and Siemens. I learned that when stress exceeds capacity, systems—biological or social, fail at the weakest joint.
Clinical practice showed me the same laws apply to human life. I became the person people called when brilliant systems started to crack.
My proprietary method, ARDM (Adaptive Relational Depth & Mentalization), is the synthesis of these experiences. It is a psycho-strategic protocol for people facing repeating conflict under pressure.
The process is a structured work of architecture:
Diagnose the Foundation: We map your inner loop. This is the hidden dynamics, power struggles, and reactive patterns driving the breakdown.
Repair the Core Structure: We contain instability with trauma-resilient practices, unbinding the shame and contempt that fuel reactivity.
Architect Peak Performance: We integrate these gains into deliberate communication, stronger boundaries, and a new capacity for leadership that holds up under pressure.
The Proof: The Non-Negotiable Result
The result: persecution has given way to a jointly accepted peace framework. Victims and former aggressors now sit at the same table, rebuilding a future through enforceable governance. This is the same deep, structural approach I bring to every engagement. I do not manage problems or conflict at the surface. I go to the root architecture of the breakdown and rebuild it into a source of strength.
My methodology is not theoretical. It has been tested under the most extreme pressure.
For 19 years, a community in Nigeria was fractured by a conflict that had spiralled into active persecution. This was not a mere disagreement but a crisis marked by home raids, arrests, multiple lawsuits, spiritual hostilities, intimidation, and families living in fear, a weaponised system that placed people in danger. I was commissioned to intervene, not merely to negotiate.
The first mandate was safety: I secured a 30 days ceasefire that halted threats, police actions, and escalatory litigation, creating the physical and psychological conditions for real work to begin. Within 30 days, through ARDM Depth Interventions, a structured, clinically grounded process for mapping hidden power, repairing trust architecture, and restoring mentalisation, we brought every stakeholder into a rigorous re-evaluation of the system.
The leadership that had once endorsed aggressive tactics undertook a courageous reversal and is now championing reconciliation. The transformation underway is the clearest proof of the method’s power: persecution has given way to a jointly accepted peace framework, victims and former aggressors now sit at the same table, and trust, once shattered, is being rebuilt through enforceable governance mechanisms.
As of October 2025: a ceasefire is in effect, both sides have agreed in principle to a unified accord, a joint drafting committee is seated, and land-restitution parameters are under design with cultural, legal, and safeguarding oversight.
This intervention wasn't just about ending a conflict; it was the ultimate act of systemic coaching. We didn't just manage a crisis; we re-architected a broken system into one capable of collaboration, governance, and a shared future.
This is the same deep, structural approach I bring to every coaching engagement. You are not hiring a consultant; you are entrusting your crisis to a field-tested methodology under extreme pressure. I do not manage conflict at the surface. I go to the root architecture of breakdown and convert entrenched trauma and power struggle into structural strength and collective healing.
Training & Credentials
Clinical Doctoral Researcher in Psychotherapy, University of Exeter
MSc in Integrative Counselling, Birmingham Newman
Advanced Post Qualification postgraduate Specializations in Complex Trauma, Personality Disorders (Kernberg/MBT), and Relational Systems (RLT/Gottman)
Certified Conflict Mediator (CMC)
Ben Anyasodo:
The Mind Architect
Ben Anyasodo:
The Mind Architect
Ben is the tactical specialist who delivers rapid, measurable pattern change, the vital implementation partner for the ARDM system.
His unique fusion of scientific innovation, clinical hypnotherapy, and behavioral science is designed to target and dismantle psychological blockages where traditional coaching fails.
His journey to this work was forged through almost two decades of leadership in behavioral research and systems design. His expertise in understanding human behavior within complex systems has been trusted by a host of high-stakes organizations. He has led user research initiatives for critical UK government bodies.
In the private sector, his work has shaped systems at major corporations like Jaguar Land Rover and Capgemini.
As a recognized thought leader and a TED Speaker, Ben has been a presenter at the prestigious World Usability Congress for the last nine years, where he explores the future of human-centered design. This deep background in scientifically mapping and influencing human behavior provides his unique Mindset Framework for Research, informing his precision as the "Mind Architect."
What Makes Ben Unique: The Implementation Specialist
Precision and Speed (The Mind Bender): Ben doesn't just ask why you struggle; he focuses on the scientific 'how' to neurologically recode patterns in remarkably short periods, providing the breakthrough mindset shifts necessary for lasting success.
Dismantling Behavioral Defenses: His expertise in Hypno-Psychotherapy and Neuroscience is the perfect complement to the ARDM diagnosis.
He specializes in rapidly shifting the behavioral manifestations of the Five Masquerades that obstruct client performance.
Systemic Integration: Trusted by executives and high-performers,
Ben's work ensures the deep clinical insights gained are immediately translated into practical, sustainable actions in the boardroom, relationship, or personal life.
Areas of Expertise
Targeted Pattern Disruption: Rapidly dissolving the core Shame- and Fear-based beliefs that fuel negative thought patterns and self-sabotage.
Mastery over the Masquerades: Creating breakthrough shifts in rigidity (Mazi Isi Ike), aggressive communication (Mazi Onu), and avoidance.
Resilience and Peak Performance: Enhancing mental agility and focus to maintain peak performance under the immense pressure of high-stakes leadership.
Strengthening Relational Systems: Overcoming core blocks to ensure confidence, trust, and authentic connections.
Mission
Mission: Ben’s work is dedicated to guiding you toward the breakthroughs that last—turning the knowledge of your trauma into the action of your transformation.
"When you change the way you think, you change the way you live.”
LEGAL NOTE
Chotayah operates as a psycho-strategic consultancy. It is not psychotherapy and does not replace regulated mental-health treatment.
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